Are you making regular deposits into the Emotional Bank Account?
Two things stood out this week that made me really think about this topic.
Firstly, on Tuesday I took my beautiful wife to a spa and then out to dinner and a show to celebrate her birthday. We went to see Jersey Boys (this is a fantastic musical that I recommend everyone in Toronto go to!) live on stage and had a great time. And then today I read a great article about how “We Are the Five People We Associate with Most”
The reason I say these are linked is because making deposits into the emotional bank account is really about connecting with other people and taking the time to find out/do things/take an interest in their lives. I did this on Tuesday with the Spa and the Musical and actually had a fantastic time all the while doing things to make my wife feel special and important.
So lets bring this back to my business life. As a joint Venture broker, my aim is to be able to help to solve people’s problems. So here’s the question: How do you know what pains people if you don’t take long enough to find out what they do and who they are?
To me, making deposits into the Emotional Bank Account from a business perspective, is relationship based selling. It is doing more than a simple exchange of goods and services for money.
You see most salespeople are just trying to sell their product before (and sometimes without) even finding out if the prospect wants/needs the product. Relationship based selling is about building trust and integrity and the bottom line is this: the easiest way to build this is to make deposits into the emotional bank account. When i want to build a solid foundation of a relationship (much like building a house) I start slowly with the basics - who is the person really? What do they believe in? What are their kids names? In order to build this type of relationship you need to ask open ended questions. On top of finding out what motivates and pains the other person, you are also taking a genuine interest in their life and trying to find out more about them. Again, as in my last posting, I am not suggesting that you walk around with a questionnaire or a tick sheet, that you get people to fill out before you talk to them - your interaction needs to be personal and genuine otherwise you will come across as fake and they will NEVER do business with you.
Most people can see the importance of this from a personal perspective, however often dismiss it from a business point of view.
If you have a business (or are a good salesperson) let me ask you this question: Do you pay personal attention to your really good customers/clients etc? Do you take an interest in their personal lives/children/weekend activities etc? if your answer is YES then well done! If your answer is NO, then perhaps it’s time to take a look at Relationship Based Selling as a valuable tool.
If your answer was yes to the above questions, then here’s my follow up suggestion: everyday make an effort to get to know (make deposits into) one new customer/client/prospect. Grow that circle of people that you interact with more that just transactionally. You see we all love doing business with people that we know - it’s human nature. So the more people that you interact with on a personal basis the more prosperous your business will be.
Here's another example: yesterday I had a great conversation with a potentially new business partner that I am just starting to get to know. We haven't done any direct business together yet, however what is very clear is that this guy has a high morale and values system. This is essential for me to be able to comfortably do business with him - I won't work with shysters and sharks. So yesterday we did talk a bit about business, but actually I was more interested in finding about HIM - the person. We talked about his visions, goals, family etc. This was as powerful as doing an actual deal - by building a personal relationship, we can map out a plan to work together long term and do LOTS of things together!
I love relationship based selling and it is one technique that I ensure ALL of my clients at least have a solid grounding in.
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Chris Hiller
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